if you can’t get into a disagreement with the person you supposedly love
without putting your hands on them
man or woman
your relationship is toxic
and you either need to reevaluate and revise
or move on
I just imagine someone trying to put out a large fire with the one small bucket they own, and running their self crazy before the fire STILL consumes everything in its path. And their neighbor is sitting on the porch with a fire extinguisher just watching…
Ask for help before it gets too bad.
Offer to help people before they ask.